Sibling Rivalry
afriend just reminded me of that phrase - how pre occupied we are with it in our christian family. I often focus on the defecit of spiritula mothers and fathers, i wonder if the issue isnt how much focus we give to having brothers and sisters which stunts our multiplication growth. When we have such singular strong parent figures in the construct, it lends itself to over sensistised awarenss of who we are in the context of our brothers and sister. We beat them over the head with our community ideal of what they should be, how they should be, what they are 'not' to us and perhaps even an awareness of our own failings with our siblings. Trouble is, such and over emphasis on this means we dont grow up - become mothers and fathers and have some spiritual children. i wonder how many of us are surrounded by and preoccupied with the nature and dynamics of our sibling relationships as church.....and all the time fail to have babies. (i tried to make this not sound like incest). Somehow - we need need to have our heads together, partner, and have a conception which results in new children. Oh how i long for us to get 'past' our own needs, our own defecits and at least enable folks who dont know jesus 'yet' to get on the same ladder of introspection - heck - surpass us maybe.
No - really - we need to ensure thatwe dont replace our historical biological dysfunctions of family with a spiritual version with the same dysfunctions and repeating or stuck cycles of innefective relationships which keep us insular and emotionally empty - too empty to ever lieft and stretch out our tentpegs to encompass others.
Sibling rivalry, or deficit, or are your siblings a mirror which reflects something unhelpful tot you concerning you own self. Father - help us grow up - draw us to our feet - to maturity - to a place of parenting spiritual babies of your and our creating.
Amen
posted by al bino at 10:11 pm
1 Comments:
Good Stuff Daryl!
Yeah - sure is lonely out there in that regard. Its crazy though, ive rasied it with some 'senior' leaders over the years. Some confess to not knowing how to parent cause they werent parented and as a result are clearly not attempting to have a go (sure - they are having a go at home with their bio kids - but not in terms of the body at large - scares the hell out of them or they avoid due to fear of failing 0 funny thing is - fear of failing stop your trying so youve failed !! get it!!)
Some have a go, some do their best, some try to simply improve on their experience or deficits - God bless those guys, hey - God bless me too cause im one of those.
You see - if we gripe about what we have not had - and this in turn means we do not attempt to do what simply needs to be done, then we have a generational cycle already in play - there are folks in their 20's moaning about folks in their 40's who in turn are keeping their heads down till the end game whilst blaming those who went before them.And there is still a generation who quite rightly blame all of those who sent us to war and saw a generation of father die on the Somme.
So of us need to have a go.......... Our being poorly parenting in the natural, doesnt seem to stop us spilling seed and having families does it? - we need the same commitment to DO OUR BEST dispite what we ourselves may not have had. perhaps...... lest we dissapoint and orphan what is rising before it has found its feet, lest we impose our dissapointments upon them. Ooooh Arrrr !
3:07 pm
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