All That Glistens Is Not Gold.................... But I Tell You What
SOME OF IT DARNED WELL IS !
Im the ugly one with the fringe in the left corner(i had just become a christian some weeks earlier), this was my crew, my family, the MODRAPHENIACS DORSET SCOOTER CLUB - i think this was 86/87. The group pic was taken on the isle of wight rally in 1983, im in there somewhere.
My friends had names like skunkhead / skid / bugsy/ beef/trooper................... sounds like the guys youd storm the beaches of normandy with!
When i got into God at the age of 18, i walked away from all this, i walked away from popping pills (couldnt smoke dope - made me throw up), walked away from the adventures of getting off with lovely lassies at the weekend, walked away from getting into other peoples fights to vent my own repressed anger issues, walked away from what was accurately described in The WHO soundtrack film 'quadaraphenia' as A WAY OF LIFE........................ but what i hadnt appreciated at the time was, i was also walking away from my family, not my , but certainly my kith and kin (scots for family).
Last night i went to the final evening of a weekender, not far from where i live, for the modrapheniacs 30th anniversary, my older brother invited me, having been the scootering generation before me and a founder member in the 70's - number 4 to be precise. (he got honoured on stage last night as 'the unsung hero of the club' - i was well chuffed for him).
Anyways.... i will eventually get to the point as this isnt just a nostalgic rant.
There had been 2000 folks there over the weekend - 400 bikes went for a run into town, must of been a blast but i missed it. So - im there last night and it was a total delight, as grand a family reunion as anyone could wish to make in their family. People i could hardly recognise, names i could remember just about. People kept saying 'have you seen so and so, or so and so is here' i i couldnt remember half of them, people i had apparantly spent a lot of time with.
I felt...........................at times....................... that i was a complete and total arse. These folks had a continuum - while i had been divorced - i felt like i had been labotomised - that part of my memory had been taken - or worse, given up.
Why? Cause when i got into god at 18 i turned my back on this - why? cause thats what you did when you got into 'church' - church which separates itself off from life and you along with it as it takes you deep into the colon of its sub culture.
Last night i felt i had in some ways missed more than i had gained in that experience of separation. At one level i needed it, i was certainly well on my way to going ballistic before i got out of it, but to have separated off??????.................... very sad indeed. In part its the ideology of church, that it saves you FROM something, into something 'other' than what you were in. Why, becuase church alledgedly exists in a place other that where you are. And theres the problem. No one comes alongside you in what your in, they just rip you out of it..................... something I DO NOT see in the bible as a methodology of Jesus.
These folks i met again, they are great people, some have been married 20+ years with lovely kids, some have been far more loyal and nurturing in their relationships than one might generally see in some aspects of the church. There was some real gold there - some real gems of people who God loves and who, by the very nature of Gods creation, he is intrinsically in - they are made in HIS image, and there is much good there. Dont get me wrong, there were some total nightmares too, depending on whats side someone had gotten out of bed or what time of the month it was - me for instance!
It was my family - and can still be my family if i have finished separating off.
My nick name was SPROGG or SPROGGY. This came about cause at 15, when i would go over the pub to talk folks into giving me a lift out on sunday runs............ i was the youngest. One wonderful woman came up to me last night and said that 'I was called sprogg cause that meant 'baby' and the she used to mother me - they felt it was their duty to look after me and keep me from harm'. Isnt that wonderful, isnt that full of who God is and what Jesus longs to see.
I had to appologise last night to a few people, i felt if i was to have integrity that i needed to do this. I wanted to do this. I appologised for turning my back on them, for 'sodding off', for cutting myself off, and that it had been my loss'.
Actually - where i come from they call that repentance - and you dont do that unless you follow it up with a corresponding action. Its time for me to re join my family at one level, to re join the story of my tribe, maybe even bring a bit of jesus with me, who, whilst he is everywhere and most certainly around these guys.............. may not have been quite as present as he could of been had i stayed around. Thats something else to repent of too.
So................. the dj asked the modrapheniacs to get on the stage where everyone could see them, i didnt need to think twice about wether that meant me too...................... cause its family!
Also - in closing............... there were people who hadnt come this year but had come last year. I was sad to have missed them.................. isnt it good to feel things like that, sad that you missed people, that they matter, that they not just 'meant' something to you, but still 'mean' something too.
All that glistens might not be Gold - But some of it is!
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(sprogg)